A-Z Survival Guide to Life
T – Traffic Signs
This is the twentieth installment in the A-Z Survival Guide to Life I am writing for my boys.
Signs, they are everywhere. There are many different signs, in fact it is overwhelming the amount of signs one is required to read and observe on a daily basis. And for the most part, people do not pay attention to signs. And this can be annoying, especially when one is reading the signs, following the instructions and everyone else is simply ignoring them. So, why do people bother to put up signs?
We had a welcome mat on our front door step that read “Go away – a big ass fragile dog lives here.” That doesn’t seemed to have deterred anyone. I think the thing that has helped us most, is the doorbell that was “fixed” by someone who will not be named, and now it doesn’t work. So we never know when anyone is at the front door. Or maybe it is Mikey (the Great Dane) staring them down through the front window who discourages all our potential visitors. Either way, as long as the magazine salespeople, the boys riding bikes in long-sleeved shirts with ties and the leaflet handing out people stay away, it works for me.
Why am I bringing up the subjects of traffic signs? Well, for several reasons. First, because I am again behind on my posts, I need something to write about that starts with the letter “T” and because of something occurring in our neighborhood that has irritated me to no end, as it has you. Stick with me on this one, there are lessons to be learned here.
When we first moved into our neighborhood, which was built back in the 70s, it was a quiet little area. Many of the houses were still owned by the initial owners, many of them elderly. But the times are changing. The former owners have sold their houses, moved on, and we have had an influx of young families with small children move into the houses down the street.
The children for some reason find the middle of the street the most enjoyable place to play. The houses where these children reside are at a T-intersection where everyone in our particular part of the neighborhood has to drive. There is no way to avoid this spot in the neighborhood, and there is a great deal of traffic that comes through this little intersection.
In order to avoid any mishaps, it seems to me the most prudent thing these parents of the small children could do, is not have them play in the street, and teach them street safety. But that is not what has happened at all. Instead, they have put up a little green plastic traffic sign that says “Slow children playing”. Now if I was one of the children, and I could read, I think I would be quite offended that my parents were referring to me as “Slow”. Actually I realize now after I loaded the photo, the sign actually says “Caution”, and this whole time I thought it said “Slow Children Playing”. See how people don’t take time to read the signs properly. But I digress, again.
Anyway, they haven’t put the sign to the side of the road, or on one of the sidewalks at the T-intersection – they have put this sign smack-dab in the middle of the street. To get around this sign you either have to veer to the left, or to the right. But if you veer to the right you come very close to hitting their enormous SUVs parked on the side of the road. If you veer to the left, you have to wait for any traffic coming the other way to go past.
And the children are still flying out into the street on their bikes without looking. I almost got hit the other day by a careening, out of control little girl on a pink bicycle (and it was I who received the dirty look from the child’s mother).
Here’s the thing that gets me the most about this. The mothers of these little children sit in a gaggle on the curb and chat away all day long. Doesn’t matter what time of day it is, they are there. Are they paying attention to their children, making sure they stay off the street? No. All their responsibility to the ensuring the safety of their children has been shifted to us, because of that little green sign. Of course, we know there are children playing in that area, we know to go slowly through that part of the neighborhood, we don’t need a little sign to remind us.
How does any of this apply to the A-Z Survival Guide to Life? There are several lessons to be learned here.
People don’t pay attention to signs – If you don’t want someone to do something – just tell them. An example of this would be the signs we have up in our clinic – No Cellphones. I wish I could recapture all the time I have waited for parents to get off their cell phones so we could proceed with their child’s visit. A most effective way, I have discovered, to deal with this is to very kindly and while smiling say “Finish your conversation, I will go on to the next patient and come back.” It’s kind of passive-aggressive, but it seems to work in convincing them to end their phone conversations quickly.
Putting up a sign does not minimize one’s responsibility or accountability – As a parent, or a dog owner or whatever it is you are responsible for, it is your responsibility to ensure the safety of the person, the pet, or the item – and everyone else will follow suit (for the most part).
If you put up a sign, it will annoy someone – Be sure you are willing to face the repercussions. A fine example of this, is the new game of attempting to “accidentally” run this little green sign at the T-intersection over. From what I can tell, the sign is made out of some type of indestructible material created by NASA and cannot be destroyed.
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Isn’t it just a niggle that when you’re on time or the appointment someone else deemed was necessary, you’re expected to let them finish their social engineering on Facebook before seeing them, thus causing the next person in the line to have a late appointment. Sounds like your way of bringing them into line might work.
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Yes and it is so unusual when I am running on time, and then I have to come to a screeching halt to wait for them. These are the same people that become irritated if they have to wait for more than 15 minutes to be seen. People are so puzzling at times.
Your second to last point about responsibility reminded me a lot of a similar incident that another blogger friend of mine recounted recently. I hope you don’t mind if I put the link here in case you’re interested. https://thecolaneconundrum.com/2016/04/21/slow-drivers-in-fast-lane/
How funny, I went over and checked out his site. He must be a genius, he thinks just like me!!!!!!
I thought you both made an excellent point in a funny way. It’s ludicrous for people to try and absolve themselves of all responsibility for recklessness simply by putting up a sign. 🙂
Well, the initial sign was mysteriously crushed, and now we have a little green turtle holding a flag sign – in the middle of the road. I wonder how long that sign will remain in one piece?
Love how you write so authentically! Great posts. @sheilamgood at Cow Pasture Chronicles
Thanks, Sheila. That is so nice of you to say!!!!
Not saying that I’ve been guilty of not understanding the first one, but there have been moments when I’ve disregarded the message on the sign, rolling along my suburban streets, not completely stopping at each empty intersection. Sometimes my inner wild woman takes control. 😉
Me too – or when I try to pull the door when it quite clearly says “Push”. Sometimes there are too many signs to read.
We have a sign before our driveway that says the same thing. My first stepmom (and mom to my younger bro) sold us the house, so we tease him and say it was because he’s dumb. But that sign certainly doesn’t make us feel comfortable with letting LM play in the road, not even on his bike and it’s truly a little side road that he would probably be safe on.
These people put this little green sign right in the middle of the road. We actually researched whether these signs are legal, turns out they aren’t. It has caused some real friction in the neighborhood. Anyway, the initial sign did mysteriously end up crushed, and then another sign showed up, but that too has disappeared as well. It seems to me most people that speed through residential neighborhoods, really aren’t ones for heeding signs, even little green signs.
No kidding! But I guess if someone doesn’t get that kids shouldn’t be in the road, the odds of them getting no one will heed their signs is slim.
In Germany there are streets with special rules called “play street”. But the signs are out there by the town if it’s a quiet neighbourhood (traffic wise) and if there are many kids. I think they are only for streets that allow only residential traffic and no drive through traffic. They have a special speed limit (like school zone in the US) and one knows that kids could be playing on the street. The colour of the pavement is often different than standard streets.
Hi Solveig – I would be totally fine with that, if it was mandated by the city and di not impede traffic. But this is at a T-intersection that a lot of people use to get to their part of the neighborhood. I would even be okay with them using their green turtle sig, if it was to the side or on the corner of the street. The thing is they leave it out when no one is playing, still blocking the road.
Are you doing okay? I must come over and visit!!!!!